What do you do when your relationship is falling apart ?
Before you can forget a relationship, you must grieve and forgive. Almost without exception grief follows the five stages below, although not necessarily in that order:
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Denial and/or disbelief: A feeling that this is not happening.
Anger: Even the partner bailing out has feelings of anger. Many feel cheated or used.
Bargaining: One or both friends bargain or try to reconcile.
Depression:A sense of helplessness, emptiness, or loss.
Acceptance: Acceptance as the result of mourning losses, then working through the grief, forgiving, and forgetting.
The hardest step for many is dealing with the ensuing grief and loneliness the loss of a best friend or another relationship brings..
Yet, according to Bob Carver, psychotherapist in Dallas, Texas, it is very important to allow time for adequate grieving.
Carver states, “When any relationship ends, friendship, kinship, or a male/female relationship, it is important to grieve that ending. Allowing adequate time to evaluate what was right and wrong about the relationship is of great significance for the next relationship. Don’t go from one bad relationship to another without doing this.”
Carver continues, “A friendship or any other relationship fails because of three things:
And/or thwarted attention.”
And then comes forgiveness